One of the paradoxes of life, is that you grow, you develop, you transform and this is crucial for your 
mental, physical and psychological health and survival.
On the one side though, you have the eagerness and excitement of change and transformation, and on the other side you have the part of you that wants to stay the same – be safe with what you know – however much you are saying, ‘Oh no, I want change in my life. I don’t want to keep the status-quo’.
Conflicting parts
It is important for you to recognise these conflicting parts in you, and also to grow to accept them as being part of you. It is just how it is – human nature. It’s, therefore, about how to find a way to let them co-operate with one another and then integrate them so each has a space in your development. You see, if this doesn’t happen, you end up exhausted with all the internal fighting whether subtle or raging that goes on for you.
Both-And
What I am saying is, it is Both-And in life and not just Either-Or. I’ll give you an example from my own life. I always labelled my reluctance as fear until I addressed it and found that it also contained real excitement that I was extending myself. What a difference it’s made to my life. You see it’s quite simple. You can’t change what you‘re refusing to confront within yourself and be at peace with yourself.
To live the kind of life you deserve, you need to get to know who you really are. Listen to yourself and learn to love yourself unconditionally – the Both–And – and know that you are the greatest gift you can give to life.
Compassion
You’ll know the old saying, ‘Compassion begins at home’ and when you give this to yourself, your heart will open and receive it. And the paradox is that then more comes towards you.
Try it.
