My apologies that I am the one to break the news to you that you may not want to hear at the start of 2015, and here it is –
Neither I, nor anyone else, can wave that magic wand that you so desperately are waiting for to enable you to change your life!
As I have said before in my Blogs (www.thevisiblewoman see Blog for 15.9.14), the ‘polyannerish’ thinking causes more problems than it is worth. I have no doubt that it is a good way to look on the bright side and bolster oneself up (and I’ve been guilty of it myself!!). It is the pretending that you just have to only do this and then you are such a good person by saying or doing –
Of course, it is not a problem
No, I don’t mind
I will breathe in and out and then forgive you
Not offering an opinion on anything for fear of upsetting someone – anyone!
It will all be okay and any problems will go away
I am on a higher plane than anyone else
It isn’t only about pretence though . Once again, what I am talking about here is about living fully in the world – being fully in life – not being half way up a mountain, sitting cross legged, chanting ‘ohmmmms’ till the cows come home and thinking you are some spiritually, enlightened being!!!
BOTH-AND
Again (more drum banging! See Blog 21.1.14) – it is Both-And. It is not just about having positive thinking (or stinking as is said too). It is about your attitude to life – knowing that being fully alive means that you embrace both your light and dark; your pain and joy; your striving and apathy; your sorrow and laughter; your ordinariness and extraordinariness ………………………
TIME
It is NOT easy or simple. There is NO magic formula or wand (whatever anyone one says!). It takes time – even a life-time’s journey – no easy answers or solutions. You can’t just change your thinking without doing the deeper exploration of yourself. That is simply paying lip service to something more profound.
You may have some surprising insights or ‘Ah Ha’s, and you still need the grounding of these building blocks of YOU.
COMMITMENT TO YOURSELF
I want you to give yourself the gift of commitment to yourself this year and come on my Residential Retreat in Majorca, on 13-16 March, 2015. There are no promises – no magic wands except that I will be alongside you while you do your exploration and deeper learning of you in a warm and loving environment with fun and laughter too.
Really looking forward to seeing you there.
You’re a woman after my own heart, Irene. I’m fed up of ‘positive thinking’ and ‘niceness’ being used as an excuse for people sitting on their behinds and not taking a stand! Virtual hugs, lady!
Oh yes, take responsibility for where you are now, and take action to get you to where you want to be!
Thanks, Corinne, for your great words – cheered me up. Irene x
Thanks, Tamsin, for your words of wisdom – exactly my sentiments xx
Thanks. Irene. Yes, an ostrich mind doesn’t fit well in a woman’s body.
And there’s many of them walking around!!!! Thanks as always Judy for your support xx
Thanks Irene, this is fab – we all need a reminder that change is available to us all, but it usually involves effort and commitment….. It’s usually worth it though 🙂
Thanks, Lottie, and you are a role model of effort and commitment yourself xx
You have hit the proverbial nail on the head, Miss Irene! So many are simply sitting back, complaining, and waiting for something GREAT to happen to them. Sadly it just doesn’t work that way! I love reading your words of wisdom!! THANK YOU!
Thanks, Robyn, for your support of what I’ve written AND I totally agree with the ‘something great to happen’. Love Irene x