Are You ‘Coming Home to Yourself?
I wonder what your response is to the above title? Do you think – Oh, this is quite a profound question or I don’t understand it or I’m not sure what she’s talking about as I’m already at home or I’ll nod and then see what she’s talking about??? There could be a wide range of response and if you are carrying on reading, I am delighted.
As most of you know, nowadays I’ve chosen to focus my work with women and, over this time, I have found that whatever the presenting issue they bring, there is pain underlying it as most are searching for themselves. They want to re-connect with themselves again as they somehow feel out of touch and simply want to be themselves.
How might this have happened?
You may be one of those women juggling too many balls (or even too little) who gave so much of yourself to your family, your lovers, your friends, being a success, a cause or your career that you lost sight of who you are. By the way, I am not saying that this doesn’t happen to men too! I am choosing to focus on what I’ve found in my work with women though.
Lost touch with yourself and your dreams.
You’re out of touch with yourself and your dreams. You have been left with a nagging feeling that just won’t go away despite everything you try including –
- An extra glass or four of wine
- Maybe an affair or two
- Shopping for the sake of it
- Being the life and soul of the party
- Being busy for busy’s sake
- Volunteering for all and sundry
- Being argumentative
- Keep re-decorating the kitchen/bathroom/whatever when it doesn’t need it
- Never being satisfied
Soul crying out for some attention
Just take a moment or two with a couple of deep breaths, and then see what it’d be like to connect with that sense of emptiness nagging away at you. It is important for your sake that you do, as it’s your Soul crying out for some attention.
Some of you may or may not be able to do it as it’s too painful right now or to take the time to speak with someone. For others, it may be that you are able to face yourself and deal with whatever comes up. An easier way might be to simply do free writing and then let go by writing about anything you experienced.
Or you could breathe into ‘peace’ and breathe out ‘fear’ and then allow yourself to be at peace with yourself – even if it’s only for that few moments – while you re-connect with your dreams.
Aligned with Self
The paradox is that for me, it is when I am aligned with myself that I am able to get in touch with what I’ve been running away from. Some of you might have said (or are saying), ‘One day, I will connect with me, with my dreams again……..when the kids are grown up, leave home or when I leave or find another job or move to another house or some such thing’ and then that one day somehow just doesn’t come.
Making other plans
I have on the back of my business Card – “Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans” (John Lennon) and have experienced this myself. Life is too short and I want to say – stop wasting your time and energy on people and things that don’t make you feel good AND start re-connecting with what makes your heart sing – you being aligned with yourself. You being yourself with all your successes, challenges, limitations, fun, pain, creativity, joy, doubts and fears and sadness…….
This is what Coming Home to Yourself is all about – your outer and your inner Self being aligned.
Yes, I know some of you will worry about what others might say or think about you, and I’m suggesting that yes, include those feelings in and then you shrug your shoulders and simply carry on being you.
The bottom line is that your own opinion of you is what matters. And valuing and respecting yourself are two of the most impactful things you can do.